Seven Tips for Mom-Me Self-Care


By Mia Redrick

As women, we often feel that we have to take care of everyone, but the simple fact of the matter is that we can’t take care of others very well if we do not take care of ourselves.  Self-care is not selfish, but rather a necessary part of caring for our family.  Women who care for themselves typically are better mothers because they feel less stressed and resentful, and are more relaxed and carefree.  Here are seven tips for taking better care of you!

1. Make regular self-care a part of your daily routine. Your daily routine needs to be set in stone, and self-care needs to be a part of it.  It may be part of your routine to get everyone out the door on time, but after you do that, block out some time to go to the gym or to spend fifteen minutes of “Me Time” after the work and stick to your plan each and every day.

2. Join local mom support groups in your community. Having support as a mom is extremely important.  We all want to feel like someone understands us, and no one can understand you better than other moms who are in the same boat.  By joining a mom support group, you will find a group of ladies with sympathetic ears and a new set of friends you can plan time out with on a regular basis.

3. Learn to recognize the difference between a true emergency and things that can wait a few hours. As mothers, we often drop everything and come running whenever any of our family members need us.  If Billy forgot his lunchbox, we feel the need to cut out on our daily self-care routine and run it over to his school.  However, it is important to realize that this can wait an hour or two.  It is not always necessary to rush right out and take care of mistakes made by your family members.  A true emergency like a sick child is one thing, but remember that some things do not always need to be taken care of right now.  Some things, like a forgotten school item, can be taken care of in a few hours instead of right now.

4. Make it easy for you to spend time doing the things you love to do. Remember that the time you set aside for yourself is completely yours, and it hardly counts if you waste all of it trying to find the things you like to do.  It can be a matter of setting 20 or 30 minutes aside for you to read a book every day, but if you waste 10 or 15 minutes trying to find your book, then you lose out.  Keep all of your fun activity items like books, magazines, crossword puzzles, crafts, or other items within easy reach.  Tuck them away in your car so you can do them while you wait for the kids to come out of school.  Remember that a few moments of waiting can be used to do something fun for yourself.

5. Date yourself in advance to force yourself out of the house. Purchase tickets for a concert or speaking engagement you really want to see, and then set the date.  This will encourage you to get out of the house and spend some time thinking only about the things you want to think about.  If the date has been on the family calendar for months, then there is no excuse for others to not be aware of them.

6. Spend some time with the girls. Friendship is also an important part of self-care, and going out for a night on the town with your friends can go a long way to helping you relax.  Take one night every other week or once a month and set it aside for your girl time.  Plan a movie or game night, or just go out for dinner.  No husbands or children allowed!

7. Learn how to say no. Self-care also depends sometimes on being able to say the word “no.”  We need to set boundaries for our time and keep it separate from our family time.  If we are truly going to spend time focusing on ourselves, then we need to draw the line and tell our children and husbands that we will take care of their issues afterward.

When we make the time to self-connect, we are able to share more of who we are with our family.  So, starting today, make your self-care a priority because it not only benefits you, but it helps your family when you are at your happiest.

Mia Redrick, Mom Strategist is a mom of three, author and speaker empowering one million mothers to practice better self-care.   Redrick is the author of Time for mom-Me: 5 Essential Strategies for A Mother’s Self-Care. For tips from The Mom Strategist visit