Lasting
intimacy comes from an everyday appreciation and a reverence for the
daily moments we spend in the company of one another.
Here are 50 simple ways you can demonstrate the depth of your love. (I
have used the words 'he' and 'she' interchangeably here. The following
ideas are not gender specific.)
1. Write down fifty favorite memories of your life spent together so
far. Invite your partner to add to the list, as well as to share special
ideas for the future.
2. Leave a message on her voicemail with a silly, romantic poem. (Roses
are red, violets are blue . . .)
3. Burn a CD featuring the songs that have been important in your
relationship. Slip it into the CD player of her car.
4. Bring homemade cookies or brownies to his office with a simple love
note.
5. Spoon.
6. Surprise her with some bath salts and her favorite magazine. Then
take the kids out of the house for the evening so she can enjoy some
time alone.
7. Stash a love note in his shoe.
8. Spend some time talking about all the goals you have been able to
accomplish during your time as a couple. Reflecting on the things that
you have been able to do with the strength of the other, including the
challenges, can really help you to remember and to celebrate the depth
of your relationship and how you have supported one another through it
all.
9. Serve her breakfast in bed.
10. Give him some time one Saturday to do something he enjoys but rarely
takes the time for.
11. Buy her luxurious new silk pajamasthat will make her feel treasured
and cherished each time she puts them on.
12. Create a special sign (such as a specific hand gesture) that means I
Love You, just between the two of you.
13. Listen without interrupting.
14. Give her a few minutes of time alone when she first gets home from
work. Sometimes, we each need a bit of time to process the transition
from work life to family life.
18. Surprise him by purchasing his favorite DVD or the latest CD of his
favorite vocal artist.
19. Talk lovingly about your partner to others, and avoid criticizing
your mate to your friends or family. Even if your words never make it
back to your partner, the tension and negative energy will eventually
wedge its way between you.
20. Talk a walk together.
21. Rub his back.
22. Dance to your favorite song.
23. Re-create your first date.
24. Light candles at dinnertime.
25. Write a love note and slip it under his pillow.
26. Send a romantic text message.
27. Send flowers, just because.
28. Keep a scrapbook of your love, from first meeting through courtship,
through marriage. Write a few journal entries about how your love for
one another has evolved as you have grown together, and the new kinds of
energy each new phase of your relationship has created.
29. Take him out to lunch.
30. Make her coffee so it is ready when she gets up.
31. Jot down 20 things you love about him and slip it under his dinner
plate.
32. Cook her favorite breakfast.
33. Choose a book you both will enjoy, and read it aloud together.
35. Slip a Hershey's Kiss and a Hershey's Hug into her coat pocket.
36. Write about the feelings you felt when you first met your mate.
Write about the first time you knew you were in love.
37. Celebrate special days in your relationship with unique traditions
and rituals.
38. Have you been holding a grudge against your partner? Today, forgive
it and move on. Witness how much power the act of forgiveness injects
into your relationship.
39. Rub her feet.
40. Find creative places to write I Love You: in whipped cream on a
slice of pie, carved into the side of an apple, in the steam on the
bathroom mirror.