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Serenity Now!
When I think about the energy I waste acting all frantic and panicky, it
makes me...well, frantic and panicky. Here are six tips to keep us all
from pushing the panic button.
"Serenity Now!" The Seinfeld fans among you will remember the episode in
which George's father hollers this phrase just about every time a
Costanza enters the room.
I've been yelling that phrase a lot lately, and it doesn't seem to be
helping much.
If you've ever been around me for more than a few minutes, there is a
personality trait I think you'll notice, and it certainly has nothing to
do with serenity.
I think I really dig melodrama in my life. I rush everywhere, and I like
feeling busy. The funny thing is, the people I admire most are cool and
confident, graceful and relaxed.
Sarah Ban Breathnach, in Simple Abundance, writes, "We can dramatically
change the quality of our lives when we consciously seek to restore
serenity to our daily endeavors." But, she says, this will happen only
when we women stop behaving like "whirling dervishes."
When I imagine a whirling dervish, I picture some kind of gopher-like
creature spinning and spinning and spinning until his head is ready to
blow off.
Now, I've looked it up, so I know a dervish really doesn't have anything
to do with a rodent, but I still like the mental imagery because
sometimes I feel like a tense, buck-toothed creature that just wants to
howl and spin until I pop.
I don't know where this melodramatic trait comes from. I don't even like
soap operas. But then, maybe that's because I live one (or try my best
to feel as though I do).
Or maybe, because I make my living as a writer, I spend my days looking
for the height of drama, even when I don't have a pen in hand.
In any case, I know I'm not alone. Lots of us create the drama we
experience. Maybe we do it because it makes us feel more important,
indispensable even....the idea that, if we weren't around to handle
things, it would all go straight south.
Richard Carlson, in his immensely popular book,
Don't
Sweat the Small Stuff...and it's all small stuff, says those of us
who treat everything as a big fat emergency are frightened that our own
laziness and apathy will actually take over.
That's part of it, I think. Sometimes, I fear that if I stop being all
frantic and pressured...if I let my guard down for one second, something
in my psyche will step in and I'll suddenly realize I never wanted to be
such an overachiever after all.
Carlson then clues us in to the fact that the opposite is true. He says
we have to get over the notion that "gentle, relaxed people can't be
superachievers." In reality, all this melodramatic behavior is quite
debilitating. It paralyzes us and keeps us from our creativity, he says.
When I think about the energy I waste acting all frantic and panicky, it
makes me...well, frantic and panicky. So, with the help of my favorite
self-help authors and the advice of friends that have watched me produce
my private soap opera for years, here are six tips to keep us all from
pushing the panic button.
Tip One:
Creative visualization works wonders. Imagine yourself going through a
typical day with the kind of inner peace that nullifies real-world
pressures. Visualize yourself behaving with the cool confidence
possessed by so many successful women.
Tip Two:
Use your journal to focus on your own competence. List the events and
problems you have dealt with successfully. See? You can handle anything.
Tip Three:
Remind yourself, whenever necessary, that much of the drama you
experience in your life is self-created and self-fulfilling.
Tip Four:
Try not to take yourself so seriously. Make fun of yourself once in a
while. I love humor columnists because they deal with the same life
issues we all do, but they introduce a new-and much
healthier-perspective.
For example, my 14-month old can't get through the grocery store without
making a major mess of one aisle or another. It sure doesn't seem funny
as I'm restocking the shelves on my hands and knees, but when I read a
humorist's account of taking a toddler to the store, I laugh. Maybe my
life is pretty funny, too.
Tip Five:
When you know you're blowing something out of proportion, resist the
temptation to pitch it that way to your friends.
Tell me if this has ever happened to you. You start thinking about
something and it gets dramatized a bit in your head. Then, you tell
someone about it. When your friend has a normal, sympathetic reaction,
you interpret the response as agreement that, yes, this is a big deal.
Suddenly, what started out as an afternoon afterthought has evolved into
an enormous problem.
Tip Six:
Work on single task orientation. I know, it's next to impossible to
finish one task before you're off to another, but a singular focus will
help keep you from becoming distracted. When we get sidetracked, we are
more easily overwhelmed. That's when the real panic sets in.
Here's to working toward a more serene, effective life. And here are a
few of my favorite books to help you do so.
Simple
Abundance, by Sarah Ban Breathnach
Don't Sweat the Small Stuff, by Richard Carlson
Love is Letting Go of Fear, by Gerald Jampolsky
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