I have a 440-page guide on how to simplify my life, but I haven't found
the time to read it.
Like you perhaps, my once-quiet world now clatters with the joy of a
large family. Amid the din, I've had to simplify my quest for the
simple.
The advent of a simpler life can be launched with a concept so simple it
takes only a few words, yet its implications and manifestations have
given birth to entire institutions and provided intellectual fodder for
philosophers for centuries.
Still, it is better, more accessible, easier to implement - at least for
me - if I can keep the message simple.
Too much interpretation waters down the message. Too much debate strips
it of its power. Too much explanation distracts us from its essence, and
gives us an excuse to avoid getting down to the business of doing it, of
living it. And to live it is to change our lives in sweeping, everyday
ways.
It is this: Live in love. Whatever contributes to the love in the world,
do it.
I suppose I've taken the risk of sounding airy-fairy and hippie-dippie.
But just for a moment, allow yourself to recognize that love is the only
gift you will always have in abundance.
Recognize how different you feel when you extend it to others. Recognize
how its unrestricted sharing infuses you with new love in your own
everyday life. And allow yourself to see how such recognition could
change your life. If, just for today, you made it your simple goal to
wholeheartedly extend yourself in love. To love lavishly. Haphazardly.
To smear it all over the place.
Once as a junior in college, I found myself in a bar with a group of
graduate students. I was the only underclassman in the bunch and they
were debating ethics, lobbing names of dead philosophers like bocce
balls, with not a small dose of intellectual pride.
I was quiet, soaking in all of the ideas and insights, when someone who
had too much to drink asked the underclassman what she thought.
"Whatever contributes to the love in the world, do that," I said.
Silence followed as they waited for me to expand, to elaborate, to offer
proof. "That's pretty much it." I said.
It's not new advice, but it's certainly simple. For me, simplifying your
life is not to add another "should." It's simply to recognize that your
degree of happiness equals your degree of compassion.
If someone curses you, hold her in your mind and bless her. If you feel
like cursing someone, bless her, too. Recognize that the feeling of
overwhelming compassion is available to you any time you wish to call
upon it.
Leading the simple life is to witness how extending love brings you joy
in a fundamental down-to-the-marrow sense. A joy you can feel in your
belly. And then to surrender the rest. To surrender anything that takes
way from that - whether it's an activity, a possession, a relationship,
a feeling, or a simple thought.
Ghandi said, "Renounce and rejoice." It doesn't get much simpler than
that.